It happens to most of us every year. We run in to the new year clutching on to new year’s resolutions that were thought up only days, sometimes moments, before the clock struck midnight on new year’s eve. We get to the end of January, and the motivation that was previously sky high is now nowhere to be seen. And then the worst realisation kicks in – there are still eleven months to go! We silently ask ourselves the question:
“What do I do now?”
Quite often it is a case of gradually phasing out any activity that was associated with your new year’s resolutions, including talking about them, in the hope that even those people you shared this information with will forget and never remind you of them again. Hats off to those of you who are not in this camp and actually see them through for a little longer, or the full twelve months.
Most new year’s resolutions don’t last because they are not properly thought through. We haven’t given them the planning and organisation that they deserve. Deciding a few days or moments before midnight on new years eve is not enough. If we are asked why we have decided to pursue a particular activity for the next twelve months, sometimes the only answer we can give is:
“Because it’s my new year’s resolution”.
But this is not a strong enough reason for making a change. It needs to be stronger for you to succeed – you have to really, really want it. The reason drives your will power to continuously take action until you meet your target.
You also need to think about whether the new year’s resolutions you have chosen are in alignment with your core values. But before you can do that, you need to be clear about what your core values are. You are much more likely to succeed in pursuing goals if they are relevant to your core values. Core values, coupled with an incredibly strong reason to want to influence change, are critical ingredients for successfully meeting goals and any new year’s resolutions you make.
Sometimes, not making new year’s resolutions is the best decision you can make. If you’re going to set new year’s resolutions, or any kind of goals, then make sure you have a strong enough underlying motivation to do so, and that they are relevant to your core values. Coaching can assist you with setting robust and achievable goals that you are truly interested in pursuing.
Written by Prashant Jadav. For more information about coaching and personal development support, please get in touch here.